10 signs – You know you’re totally get over it

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No, broken heart it’s not an easy thing to get over 🙂 I got to admit that and I don’t want to simplify it… but it’s not something worth to cling to for some extended time as well. In fact, it’s a wasting of time. Cuz you see, there are just too many beautiful things out there to enjoy, as much as a person that you can falling in love with again. I remember when I was “curhat” (sharing feelings) with my male friend. Instead of mourning with me, he laughed his ass-off over my broken heart and say: “O please Lolo, see… so many guys out there! Too many! This one is just a single fish in a big ocean!” At first I was sort of want to slap him in the face, but his laugh is just too funny and he’s saying it from his heart. I end up laughing with him.. He made my day at that time… but after months, and you’re going here and there, there are times when you’re asking yourself whether you really get over this guy or not or you’re just pretending cuz you still remember him once or twice. You see girls (or boys) the signs are so clear, and you need to have more self-confidence. To make it clear, here’s the list of the signs that lead to your fully understanding, you are tottaly got over him. So be happy, cuz you’re not just any other girl who like to be clingy to their ex-s and begging for their attention. Thou in my case seems like it is the guy who’s hoping me to be like that.

  1. You’re talking and mingle with his friend or family but the conversation run in a casual tone, very fun, and not talking about him at all! And in a week you just forget that person is his friends and the conversation get to another level… that person become your friend too.
  2. You’re listening to what use to be “Our Song” and thinking about another man 🙂  hahaha – oh this is so true!!
  3. You can talk about him with your Mom and laugh about it (make a joke out of what was a “serious” subject, like his family, his sickness and the silly routines that you usually did together) and your Mom laughing too, still a little bit offensive but she’ll give you the sign that you’re really okay. Remember, Mom is your reality check! To know whether things are really okay, you got to ask your Mom!
  4. You’re no longer can picture a good future if you’re still with him, you’re trying but instead it makes you confuse of how you could do it before.
  5. You’re giving away the stuff he gave you to people that really – really want it and love it, not just any other people or NOT throw it away.
  6. Your friends make a joke about your relationship with him and you’re totally involved in it, you end up laughing together, then you’re going home and still smiling to think of the silliness.
  7. You’re trying to write something hurtful about broken heart, but no matter how hard you try to do it, you just can’t, because there’s no hurt to sooth anymore — try it! 😉
  8. You no longer want to know what’s going on with him and totally forget to check his recent circumstances (like cyber-stalking hahaha) for months now and when you think about him, you give him a little pray may he found his happiness – sincerely. When your friend asking you how he’s doing your answer is in casual tone: “I don’t know, but I’m hoping he’s alright”
  9. You read things you was write down about him, all the love feelings, and think you actually can feel it with another man (^_^) — this is also so true… aaarrgkhh… even to think about it I’m blushing already!  Yayaya!
  10. You’re not in denial because you know the different between truly happy and trying hard to be happy (and that include in NOT trying hard to find a replacement or rebound! NOR comparing the men you’re close right now with him) — other man just as beautiful (to who he was) in a different way… (you are beautiful for me… xixixix… awww)

See girls? You can really forgive and forget 🙂 Of course not tottaly forget like the movie Eternal Sunshine of The Spotless Mind (you can’t find that technology)… but  if the memories linger, let it be the fun ones and remember to moving on, it’s 2010 anyway! Oh I’m so ready to embrace the new love…

It's like throwing away your old "use to be beautiful" undies and find a new one 🙂 however, you're the only person who will know how the new one will look good on you hahaha...

This is one great song to help you feeling good!

Sing a long with me! C’mon!

“Get It Together”

One shot to your heart without breaking your skin
No one has the power to hurt you like your kin
Kept it inside, didn’t tell no one else
Didn’t even wanna admit it to yourself
And now your chest burns and your back aches
From 15 years of holding the pain
And now you only have yourself to blame
If you continue to live this way

Get it together
You wanna heal your body
You have to heal your heart
Whatsoever you sow you will reap
Get it together

You can fly fly

Dark future ahead of me
That’s what they say
I’d be starving if I ate all the lies they fed
Cause I’ve been redeemed from your anguish and pain
A miracle child I’m floating on a cloud
Cause the words that come from your mouth
You’re the first to hear
Speak words of beauty and you will be there
No matter what anybody says
What matters most is what you think of yourself


The choice is yours
No matter what it is
To choose life is to choose to forgive
You don’t have to try
To hurt him and break his pride
To shake that weight off
And you will be ready to fly

One shot to your heart without breaking your skin
No one has the power to hurt you like your friends
Thought it will never change but this time moved on
An ugly duckling grew up to be a swan
And now your chest burns and your back aches
Because now the years are showing up on your face
But you’re never be happy
And you’ll never be whole
Until you see the beauty in growing old



4 thoughts on “10 signs – You know you’re totally get over it

  1. Jadi inget, Lolo pernah bikin ‘iklan’:
    Guru Les Privat Jatuh Cinta!”

    Jadi sekarang, udah ketemu ‘guru’-nya? Atau belajar dr pengalaman aja. “Guru yg terbaik adalah pengalaman.”

  2. Ah Erry,

    Aku kan jadi maluw… hahaha… 🙂 betul memang “pengalaman adalah guru yang baik” … tapi menurut pendapat gwe… “pengalaman orang lain adalah guru yang lebih baik lagi” hahaha….

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